hey all! so my one year old and i are moving to our own apartment this month. i’m 19 and have been living with family members up until this point and finally have the means to live on my own. i’m looking forward to having our own space for many reasons but there are a few habits i’d like to break,

and let me just say in advance i know some of this could’ve been prevented by now but i can’t change the past so let’s just focus on moving forward!

for one, co-sleeping. i finally stopped breastfeeding about two weeks ago. (he’s 14m) and he’s been doing pretty good at night, however i still haven’t been able to get him to sleep and stay in his crib.

at this point i’d be entirely willing to try sleep training or “crying it out” to an extent (especially after seeing how fast he got over the boob, he was ADDICTED!!) however, as i said i live with other people right now and have to be respectful. that’s why it’s been such a hard habit to break, i have to get him to quiet down asap at night.

another is him not wanting me to use the restroom, cook, do laundry, etc. without him. he screams bloody murder outside the bathroom door and even if he was playing all by himself prior, he will follow wherever i go and not go play again until i’m done.

would it be a good idea to just go cold turkey in a new place? it’s 2BR so his crib would no longer be in my room, but instead his own so that would be an adjustment by itself. he’s used to going to sleep with me every night.

i don’t want to bring the bad habit into a new place and have him rely on that for comfort but idk what the best would be in this situation because it’s a big change for both of us. would rocking him to sleep in his room, then putting him in his crib be just as bad? should i just go cold turkey and lay him in there at night?

i really don’t know how to do this guys! we’re both really used to co-sleeping but i’ve had about enough lol. and again, he is 1.

as far as the super attached-ness, i don’t even know where to begin with that. i guess not giving into it?? i mean i really don’t now and i’m telling you he can scream cry outside the bathroom door for 20 minutes straight, laying on the floor and looking underneath, sticking his hands under the door.

i don’t want to bring bad habits and frustration into my new place!! any advice is very welcome and appreciated, thank you!

(also - i have considered daycare on and off but ultimately i don’t think it’s in the cards for us. i know social interaction is good, and we do get out and see mommy friends when we can but as far as daycare goes i just simply don’t know of a place in my area that i trust and also don’t know that i can comfortably afford it. i work from home while taking care of him which is a lot on my plate but honestly if i can just have nights to myself and cook, clean, use the bathroom, etc without a screaming baby then it’ll be a thousand percent more manageable than it is now.)