We've started having our weekly dinners with my mil again ( our province were allowed to have a little social circle)

She came last week and out 4m was having a great day. My hubs made a comment about this, noting he's usually a pretty fussy guy. Then during the week he popped by his mom's on his lunch break since he was in the neighborhood and was talking to her again about him being fussy and a bit challenging currently (he told me about this convo when he got home)

So she comes over yesterday. Hubs took our toddler upstairs to change her diaper.

As soon as we're alone my mil starts off

"oh he's just the best" to which I agreed and said he's great she then goes " you know your really don't know how lucky you are. He's such a good baby, the best. You have no idea how hard it actually could be. My son had tummy issues and drove me crazy." So I said " that must have been really hard. This guy is pretty fussy" she goes "oh no he's the BEST" and I said " oh he's definitely the best, but also fussy haha"

Then at dinner hubs was holding him and he started fussing/ crying . Hubs made a comment that this is more common. My mil "are you hungry? Hmm you hungry?" Then turns to me " is he hungry?!" I got a little snappy which I shouldn't have but said " he shouldn't be. If I was worried he was hungry I'd be feeding him" she said " oh well I'm just trying to reinforce that I'm right and he IS a good baby the only reason bed be fussing is that he's hungry hahaha" 🙃🙃🙃🙃

She takes everything we say about our kids as if we're insulting them or complaining. Our first was bald until 2 lol and if we'd comment on it she'd get all pissy " no she's beautiful! Look she has some hair" and we explained serveral times she is gorgeous, but she's bald. It's not an insult, were not concerned it's just an observation/ fact.

And drives me batty 1- she waited until we were alone to make the first comments and 2- she's making a point to tell me how good I have it and implying I shouldn't complain when these are comments my hubs made not me. And he should be able to talk to his mom about the challenges of parenting. And she should understand we love our kids and feel blessed to have them, but sometimes it's hard too.