My husband has always been a “mommas boy,” and it’s getting so old. We have a two year old and a 6 week old. Every time he’s around our sons (when he’s actually around them) he’s always on his phone. He’s mainly on his phone talking with mommy and daddy. He only cares about the “picture moments” to make him feel like a better dad? He always sends pics I take of the kids to his mom.... anyways, he’s always “too busy.” We never go anywhere as a family of four. I usually just stay home with the kids. He has his own business and he can take off whenever but he doesn’t. He works 16 hours, 7 days a week. His mom & dad works with him, which is a big mistake in my opinion. So when he does come home, he’s on the phone with either one of them. I don’t feel important to him. 😖 Wednesday he took the day off. He came inside our home and was like, “me and my mom are going fishing.” Like are you serious? 😳 I even asked if me, him and the boys can go somewhere instead because I couldn’t hike down with a newborn. And it was, “no, maybe Friday.” We’ll today is Friday. I’ve been crying my eyes out all day. It was 6 when he finally came in. Everything closes here early. I literally got dressed up and matched my two boys....only to dress in pajamas. I feel so unwanted, and so unloved. I can’t even imagine how my two (almost 3) year old feels 😣😭. Every time I tell my husband how I feel it’s “me starting a fight.” He wants me here with the boys so “he can make the money.” And he makes me feel like a criminal if I ask for money. He says, “it’s your job to clean, cook and watch the babies.” (Which I do) but to the extent that I have to pick up after him and make his plate and pour him something to drink everyday/night? I am honestly having second thoughts, but he tells me that if I leave him, I’ll probably end up with someone who smokes pot? I messaged him how I felt, while he’s out again, and still no response. In the message I included, you’re not making money with us, you’re making memories, you should treasure us more.” And it’s the dang truth. He’s all the time talking about how much

Money he has and he doesn’t know what to spend with it.... and also talking about how he wants to refurnish his moms house and redo it... but when I mention we need new furnisher he says, “you think I’m made out of money?” Im sorry this is all over the place. I’m just so upset...

Update:

He came home last night, knowing I’ve been upset and all he said was, “I love you.” I sat down at the kitchen table crying, and told him again what’s bothering me, and he said, “well, I’m just going to work harder now and not give myself anymore breaks” (because I mentioned him going out with his mom and brother instead) so I guess if his mom can’t spent time with him neither can I. I just don’t understand. I’m always stuck at home, and when I wanted to do something with him Wednesday he didn’t want to... he’d rather be fishing with him mom & brother. I give up, y’all. I’m so depressed. Especially when my two year comes up to me and asks, “where’s daddy?” Or gets out of bed so excited to see daddy but daddy isn’t home. 😣