I have 2 daughters. Both have different dads. My youngest daughter has a brother who lives a few hours from us, his mother and father have a court case in the county that his mother and him live in. His mother and I are friends. I’ve said I would move down there because I want to file my custody case with their dad in the same county they already have one in. I also want my daughter closer to her brother. I have no family or friends, so me moving closer would also be beneficial for me because I would know someone and wouldn’t be so isolated and my oldest daughter would be around children her own age. We don’t have that where we live at.

My oldest daughter is about to start school. This is her first year at a school so I’m nervous, especially with covid going on. This school is smaller and is taken better precautions to protect against covid. She also would get better 1-on-1 with the teacher and I feel with the school being so small, they’d be able to keep an eye on her better. My oldest daughter is excited to start school and has voiced excitement about moving back down there. My youngest is 2 so she doesn’t really have an opinion but I know she would be happier being near her brother.

My oldest daughters dad isn’t involved so he has no bearing on this matter, nor does she have any other siblings besides my children.

The problem is my boyfriend lives with us and we’ve been together for a few years, he has a job where we live at. He said he doesn’t care about moving down there but he doesn’t want to give up this job. He plans on giving up the job in September though when oilfield picks up again. The place we’re wanting to move to has a lot of jobs in his line of work, that wouldn’t be a problem, I also would be working. I told him we could move down there and he could stay here at a friends house or something on the weekdays and come home on the weekends or drive back and forth. He doesn’t like those options.

My daughter has to start school. I don’t want to enroll her at these schools and then risk her catching covid or enroll her here, let her make friends and then enroll her somewhere else. I want this to stay stable for her, which why I want to move before school starts. My boyfriend says I’m being selfish by wanting to move down there. But I feel like he’s being selfish by keeping us here because he doesn’t want to move. This benefits the kids and me. It would even benefit him because the cost of living is cheaper, the kids and I would be happier.

Am I wrong for wanting this?