How should I tell him??

Question

My amazing handsome boyfriend is a few pounds shy of 300.. after he eats he sweats for hours. He eats vegetables but butters them up. He only wants to eat once a day.
He failed a physical once before because his blood pressure was high after drinking a Gatorade. I make sure I keep waters and juices in the fridge. He barely drinks soda now but he’s not eating sweets like CRAZY. 
Every time I bring him up a “health question”
As he calls them he just shrugs me off. He told me that he feels fine. He’s not rude about it but I can tell it makes him uncomfortable.
How should I go about starting a conversation with him about it? I don’t want to hurt his feelings but something has to give

Answer

Focus on your own health and let it spill over. Example “I made brocolli and veggies to go with our dinner... give em a try.” Maybe switch to sugar free juice... or crystal light drink packages. Or make lower calorie pitcher of lemonade. Also explore lower calorie recipes and lunches. Focus on us... not just him... or he will feel some type of wat.
    Oftentimes weight issues are stems of other issues.... sometimes simple ignorance of choices.... sometimes emotional deeper rooted issues. So tread lightly.

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Not sure how Gatorade would make your blood pressure high... but anyways. If you aren’t particularly active or eat extremely healthy yourself maybe you can say you want to make changes yourself and ask him if he can do it with you to make it easier on you. If he starts to see changes (and most men do pretty quickly because they have better metabolisms than us) he might be motivated to keep going. You can’t force him to do anything he doesn’t want to though 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I always try to motivate my husband to exercise... he used to lift weights before we were dating but after we got married and 3 kids together, we both started to gain weight like crazyyy... 
I started to ‘eat healthy’  and exercise 3 years ago, when he saw my results he told me he wanted to loose weight too but he didn’t know how to start, so I give him ideas of what to eat during the day. 
Right now he is drinking his green juice every day and sometimes even work out with me. 
Try to take him pictures of him every week and compare them and motivate him. 
I also buy him smaller clothes and I tell him ‘LOOK! Next month you’re going to fit in here’. 
Obviously I try not to be rude I love him the way he is but I always tell him that drinking water is healthier than soda and things like that.

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Well, first I think it would be good to be honest with yourself about why you want to bring it up. That could really answer some of your questions. If it were me and I were concerned with health, life expectancy and what not, I would just say “I’m worried that you’re going to have some negative consequences of your diet and health choices”. But if he is fine feeling and clearly uncomfortable when you bring it up it seems likely he knows he’s overweight and isn’t ready to make life changes yet. Which to me would either indicate I shouldn’t say anything or be careful of my words so I don’t humiliate him or make him feel insecure.

How should I tell him??

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