Am I constipated?

So I have a bowel movement every day that I drink coffee. If I don’t drink coffee I literally cannot poop. When I do it’s like a sudden urge and I never feel like I’m completely finished. I also get a lot of upset stomach/cramps/gas/bloating. Is there any way I can have a normal bowel movement without coffee? I’ve been watching how much water I drink and trying to cut out dairy and eat more fiber but nothing is helping