Breastfeeding Your Child’s Father Too ??????

Question

Can we please talk about this cause I KNOW FOR A FACT I can’t be the only one. 
My Fiancé literally gets turned on my body’s pregnancy changes.... today he noticed my boobs were bigger so naturally he started to fondle them & I wasn’t even fazed cause he does it all the time but TODAY.... today was different. He literally says “I can’t wait till you start breastfeeding” & starts suckling my nipples. I looked at him speechless because I heard about this fetish in different countries but I didn’t say anything to him in that moment. I continued scrolling on my phone WHILE he’s fondling & sucking on my breast. & then he goes “mhmm, it always turns me on when your premature milk comes out.... it taste like coconut water” I literally was still shocked so I was like “when the baby comes are you gonna try to drink my breastmilk?” .....
My fiancé replied “I kinda wanna breastfeed too, I don’t know... it turns me on that your carrying my baby and it seems like I’m the only that’s amazed by your body changes but would that be weird ? For me to wanna drink from your boobs ?” 
So I didn’t tell him no, that it was perfectly normal but I didn’t tell him yes, that it was absolutely weird.... instead I kinda just expressed my concerns about how he would go about it if I ever let him & how it would feel weird to me to be sexualizing my breastmilk during our alone time when I would have to go breastfeed when our alone time is over.... then I proceeded to say he could drink it when I pump but it looked like all the life left his face. 
He said “it wouldn’t feel the same” 
“I love you so much I literally wanna get as close to you as I can possibly get & Idk but drinking your breastmilk straight outta your breast feels spiritual & makes me feel strong about our family unit & who I made a mother & the nurturer of our home. I don’t think I would wanna do it all the time but I would wanna get to know the experience of it... it taste good anyway” 
That was basically the end of the conversation cause I usually stay quiet when it comes to his sensitive feelings like that but 
QUESTION? 
have any of you moms done this ? & if so PLEASE tell me how you went about this 
I wanna get close to my partner as well but please tell me if this is a weird fetish that I shouldn’t be condoning. 
Like How would I separate the sexual feeling I get from before I got pregnant to after..... because I know for a FACT it won’t feel sexy or anything close to when I’m feeding my baby

Accepted Answer

Please stop shaming her man. That is so disrespectful. 
My husband will suck on my titties while we’re having sex and it really turns me on. Sometimes milk will come out and sometimes it won’t. If it comes out he just stops because it’s not his thing. But I’ve been breastfeeding for 8 months and he never did it in the beginning. He didn’t start until my son was 5/6 months old, but that’s also because I didn’t want him to, even though I enjoyed it prebaby. I just thought it would be weird, but in the right mood, when my husband sucks on my nipples it really turns me on. 
So maybe you could try it in the bedroom in that context? But I wouldn’t let him empty your breasts purely for supply reasons. You might end up with an over supply. Keep it at bay until your supply regulates around the 6 week pp mark, and then just dabble in it and see what happens 🙂 I hope this helps!

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Communication is going to be everything. My husband is the exact same way. He loves it. I don't mind it but I have rules. I cannot allow him to do it at the same time as the baby. When the baby nurses I feel motherly. When my husband does it, he sexualizes it. I can't separate those feelings at the exact same time. When our baby was newborn he had to wait until after I pump most of the time, and get left overs just because obviously the babies nutrition came first. Now that we have a toddler, who eats and drinks other things (and sleeps at night), my husband gets it way more often than before. One other strict rule, if during sex there's any back and forth between oral and suckling, afterwards he has to be in charge of the baby while I shower or at least wash my breasts off for the baby. 
Good luck!

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I love it 🤷🏾‍♀️💯😂 my breasts were sensitive and I won’t lie too when you’re boobs are overfilled, etc, you’re out and about, the baby is asleep and not ready to feed, it’s nice having him relieve that pressure or pain. Were working on trying for baby number two now that my daughter is 3 and he couldn’t get enough when I was breastfeeding. The sex was insane 💯💯

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Mine sucked on it while we were intimate.  He liked the taste of my milk and  I didnt mind

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It's not a fetish of mine but I also don't think it's some nasty thing either? I'm sure your husband isn't the only person who wants to do this. I would maybe post this in the kinks and fetish group where you will get more answers to what you're looking for. I do think that it is possible to not sexualize breast feeding your baby while also letting your husband have his kink. That is if you both agree to it

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Dam that's cute one of my fantasys when I become pregnant
Just don't let him drink all you need that energy

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I don't like my breasts touched sexually at all when I'm breastfeeding, so I definitely wouldn't be comfortable with that.
Hub did try my milk pumped (so did I) just being curious of the taste

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My husband was the same way when I was pregnant. He said my breast milk tasted like cereal milk. Lol. He loved sucking my nipples and always makes jokes about him needing to be fed. (Even now years later) There's nothing wrong with it. It's perfectly normal. It's just two adults and it's not uncommon for a man to try his wife's milk.

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I’m pregnant with our first baby, and my husband keeps asking when my milk will come in bc he wants to try it. I think he has a little kinky curiosity about it bc he’s mentioned it several times even before I got pregnant. I don’t mind bc I’m curious about how he will react sexually and if it will get him going more bc when he gets worked up then I get worked up. I don’t think I could ever assimilate breastfeeding my child with the sexual side of having my husband suck too. Idk we will see how it goes! 😬 I’m weirdly excited to try it though bc he loves my boobs so it will probably be a whole different experience on so many levels.

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I'm TTC #1 so no breastfeeding yet, but my boyfriend and I talk about it. I've asked him if he would drink my milk and he said yes. I know my boyfriend has a breeding kink, as do I, but I'm not sure if drinking breast milk and breeding kink go hand in hand really. I do know that my boyfriend gets off on the thought of me getting pregnant. He even said he would want to have sex while I was breastfeeding. 
All of this in practice might not be possible, but it's fun for us to think about. 
So it's not unheard of for your boyfriend to react the way he is about your changing body. Best you can do is try it and if it isn't your thing, talk to him about it.

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