Serious question

Me and My SO are 13 years apart . I feel like our relationship is dying . It’s no spice to it . We have a 5 month old daughter and I have 5 year old son from a previous relationship. When we first it was always turning up , having fun & going out . We moved in with each other a year & 5 months ago . Things were definitely different . Its one thing to come spend the night and leave. We had a lot of challenges & differences.

I’m more motivated when it comes to anything i want done & he’s completely laid back . THE MOST IRRITATING THING EVER . But no ones perfect so I accept it from time to time . We both work full time jobs and deal with the kids . We have different days off , I got blessed with being off on weekends . We both have Sunday’s off & his 2nd day off changes every week. I try to be more active with him and the kids . Due to COVID were very limited on doing things but we have a big backyard so us going out somewhere is no necessary unless it’s food shopping or pampers for my daughter .

He doesn’t want to do anything . He can sleep all day and still be tired and complain about anything he can . He can do 1 choir around the house and acts like he’s to tired to do anything family oriented. If it doesn’t benefit him I feel he won’t make it a priority. Yes I understand we need rest on our days off . But who wants to be in the house and in bed until 11-12pm & take a nap around 4-5pm?

I don’t have any friends and I refuse to have both my kids around anyone . Nobody can be trusted . Even with me working 5days a week & getting up everyday at 6am to start my day and end it around 11pm I still try to spice it up. Even intercourse is not as exciting. It’s like he just wants to get it out his system & go to bed from being tired all day. I’m not sure what to do anymore . Sorry for the long story but any other moms go through this ?