Bonding with baby...

So i'm having trouble bonding with my baby. When I had my first ultrasound I cried. But after that i lost my connection. When i heard the heart beat the first time it was cool but it wasn't amazing. I bought a doppler to try to bond but... meh. I had my anatomy scan today, found out we're having a boy, saw him, watched him wiggle around and kick, for about two minutes. And it was so cool but it was like i was watching somebody else's ultrasound. Now when I look at the pictures it doesn't resonate "thats my baby" "thats growing inside of me" it feels like it's somebody else's baby. I feel like crap because i should be amazed, and in love, and thrilled. Thats how i felt with my nephew, first time I saw him i cried. I'm scared when the baby comes I won't feel like he's mine, or i'll get PPD. I'm starting to feel him move a little bit but even that doesn't connect. I don't have many symptoms and i don't really feel pregnant. I didn't have any morning sickness, i lost 6 pounds, no heart burn.... I'm so sad, i don't know what to do.

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Ma

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When baby comes you will bond. I was similar to that with my first...and some with the second.

Me

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I’m 17 weeks + 5 days and haven’t felt any connection or really any excitement. I’ve confided in a few people and been told it’s normal and some women don’t have a connection until after the baby is born. I’ve not had my anatomy scan yet but I’m not sure I’ll feel much then either. This is my first and mentally it’s been extremely challenging. I’ve had days of regretting getting pregnant during Covid and angry towards the situation.

Re

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I felt that through the first part of my last pregnancy. This pregnancy I don’t feel connected as much as I did with my sons pregnancy.

Br

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This has been me with every pregnancy since having my first two babies in an open adoption with a family that couldn’t have kids. I feel like my mind just puts a block in front of me to not get connected. It really sucks.

Sa

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You will get there mama...have patience. My best friend (she is due this week) felt the same way. At 20 weeks when I met her after US, she said the baby is cool 😎 Things changed for her at baby shower and she really got possessive about the baby at 32/34weeks scan. She said it’s unbelievable that a whole baby is in there! Slowly, baby starts kicking and you would wait for the next kick. Take time to plan the nursery room, look at baby videos, may be start a pregnancy journal and pour out your feelings. Stay happy and positive 😀