My Mom is accusing me of stealing her bf, pt. 2

Yes, part 2. Some of you might recognize this story from last week. Well this is a continuation and it’s only gotten worse.

Back story: my mom was dating a guy and it turns out this guy had known of my mom from high school. But he knew of me via social media and admitted to having been attracted to me before they got together... he told her the only reason he backed off was because I was 33 years younger than him. 🤢

So anyway my mom is livid, and breaks things off with him. Well he stops messaging her and is done with the relationship as of last week because she had been accusing him of talking to other women besides me.

My mom becomes unglued and had given me the silent treatment for three days. But suddenly she’s messaging me asking if I’m talking to him. I ignore the message but she keeps at it until I finally tell her no I’m not. She doesn’t believe me and now she is accusing me of having an affair on my husband with HER 62 YR OLD FORMER BOYFRIEND.

I’ve never given her any reason to believe that about me... she’s convinced that I’m trying to talk to her man and she wants me to block him off of social media. I know it might be easier if I just blocked him, but we don’t even message each other. If he started messaging me and trying anything then of course I’d block him. But he hasn’t. And my mom is all about trying to control me and what I say and do. So that’s why I fought against her demands to block him.

I decided not to block him because 1) he isn’t bothering or harassing me, and 2) my mom has proven that she thinks so little of me and doesn’t trust me. I even offered to send screen shots, the last time he messaged me was saying Happy Easter in April...

And NOW my mom is at it again. She continues to accuse me in our family group chat.

Red= mom

Pink= me

Green= brother #1

Orange= brother #2

Yellow= mom’s BF

White= Aunty #1

Purple= Aunty #2

Blue= my husband

And right after I told her if she keeps making false accusations against me and harassing me, her chances of seeing me my husband and her grandson will start to decrease significantly.

Then she sends her sister (purple) to text me.

So my mom took what I said and turned it into I’m never letting her see her grandson again. When really I said IF she continues to be this way with me, we will set limits and boundaries.

It’s getting big and ugly really fast. My mom called her sister weeping and now my aunt is pissed at me.

When I was engaged to my now husband my mom told me I’m making a mistake and running into a failed marriage. She then sent her brother to talk me out of marrying my now husband. Well he was at least reasonable, because he bothered to hear my side and by the end of the talk he supported me and my husband.

What do I do? At this rate my mom will have her entire side of the family against me... it’s just a big mess. And I just want her to respect me and my family but that’s like pulling teeth for her.

Side note: currently 5 weeks pregnant with our second child. She doesn’t care.

Edit: I’ve already explained why I didn’t block him. But if I need to I can block him, and update on how my mom responds. I know her, and I know that blocking him wouldn’t solve anything and she would still find a reason to accuse and attack me. Hope that clears things up.

Edit (7/23): I’m sorry that I’m not replying to everyone on here and mainly focusing on those who think I’m in the wrong here. I think those who say “you should’ve just blocked him it’s not that hard” are the ones who also don’t have to deal with people like my mom on a regular basis. If I had given in and blocked him, my mom would be satisfied temporarily... but it would only be a matter of time before she came and attacked me again on something else... it’s a vicious cycle and I don’t want to keep playing the game of “if you love me you would do whatever I tell you to do. And if you don’t then I don’t love you”..... what I’m trying to say is this: my mom will find something to accuse me of, and has done so to tear me or my close ones down in the past. I’m tired of it and I’m not going to put up with it anymore, especially now that I have a family of my own.

Edit (7/24): the dude has been blocked, along with my mom and aunt. Will share another update if anything else happens.