Hi,

Recently my boyfriend just told me that he feels very pressured to have sex with me, which is one of the reasons why he chose not to do it after so long. Whenever we do it, I always make sure that he’s okay and that he feels good. Now he suddenly says that everytime we do it it’s just for pleasing me and it no longer pleases him.

He’s someone who isn’t particularly attracted to boobs or booty, but is attracted to beautiful things (like artsy and stuff). He told me that before we got together, he doesn’t masturbate as often too because he just doesn’t feel like it. And when he does, he is very specific with his dream girl (Cara Delevigne). I sometimes wonder if he just has low sex drive or he is just not particularly attracted to anyone.

I’m worried that if this goes on, it would affect our relationship. I’m someone who is very into intimacy, and I would assume he is someone who doesn’t need it but feels lonely sometimes and then crave for intimacy. He makes me feel very distant to him.

Please, can you guys offer me some advice?