I know this isn't reddit, but I need to vent about my parents.

My parents have always been controlling and manipulative.

But ever since I got pregnant and gave birth to my now 4 month old baby girl, they REALLY kicked it up a notch.

Today was the last straw.

They came to my apartment unannounced.

Like, what if my hubs and I were, you know, "BUSY"?

What if we were indecent?

All the what ifs.

We had just gone grocery shopping earlier. My hubs works 3PM-1AM at a food packaging factory, we were relaxing before he had to leave. And they came and disrupted it.

Not to mention: my dad is OBSESSED with my baby to the point where it's disturbing.

He gets overly excited to change her diaper.

He's constantly in her face to the point where she starts crying.

He WILL NOT leave her alone.

He gets upset when we visit my husbands family instead of him.

He will and has thrown a fit about me taking care of MY baby (when she obviously wants me) instead of letting him.

Like, she is picky about who feeds her. As in, she only wants me to feed her.

She doesn't even let her daddy do it.

So now they arrive here, unannounced. Baby girl's naptime was disrupted... multiple times. My dad wouldn't even leave her alone to let her fall asleep.

Their ploy to surprise visit us: to drop off a GIANT clothing drying rack that won't even fit in our living room. We didn't need it but "we saw it at a yard sale and thought of you."

We are done. Just so done with them.

Planning to have a meeting with them to tell them so.

Edit: Just a btw: we live a little over an hour away from my parents, so this dropping in unannounced was a pretty big deal. There wasn't any way for them to just so happen to be in our neighborhood, we live in a valley surrounded by giant hills.

My parents used to invite us over, last minute until we told them to stop and ask us at least a week ahead of time.

My dad threw a major hissyfit did his usual drama queen thing...

Not invite us over at all and have my mom do it for him. She respected our request and the visit was a nightmare. My baby became overwhelmed and overtired and my dad didn't just did not care about why she was screaming.

This is repeated behavior that has been going on since she was a month old.

I trust babies to have a good sense when it comes to people, she is more relaxed with my husband's family, and most of our visits with them involve 2-3 dogs and a 5 yr old boy running around the house. She smiles at my husbands dad but not at my dad.

My plan is to have a meeting with my parents, tell them everything we have a problem with, ask for them to attempt to respect our privacy and lives. If they can't (which would not surprise me) then we will greatly reduce contact with them.