How to love your body again?

Question

A few weeks ago I posted my birth story, if you read it you know it did not go as planned...long story short I never went into labor and had to have a cesarian.
I’m almost 4 weeks PP struggling to “love” my body. When I was pregnant I was so proud and loved my body for what it was doing. However since my body didn’t even go into labor, I didn’t get the chance to feel any contractions and try to have a natural birth like I wanted, I’m struggling. 
It gets to the point that at night I’m crying because I know I SHOULD love my body, it gave me my beautiful baby boy, it produces more than enough food for him. BUT it couldn’t even do what it was designed to do, I feel so betrayed.
Any suggestions on how to be okay (not even necessarily in love) with my body after an unexpected cesarian?

Answer

I focus on the quote “How can you say anything negative about your body when you have felt the dancing of life in your womb?” It resonates for me. Our bodies are AMAZING capable of bringing beautiful life into this world. So what if they’re little jiggly... or have stretch marks... or weigh a little more now. We did something miraculous and have our bodies to thank for it. ❤️

Answer

I went back and read your birth story and for starters, I’m sorry you didn’t get to experience the birth you had wanted. This is my third child and I’d expected this delivery to be the same as my others, however she measured very large and I had to be induced. At the time, I cried really hard because it was not at all what I would have wanted but in the end, it was what was best for my baby girl. 
I would say, for starters you are a superstar of a mom because you sacrificed what you wanted for what was best for Yeah your baby. You knew that if it was what was the safest for baby, you’d give up your own desire. 
When I called my mom crying telling her I was being induced and how mad I was that I couldn’t just go into labor naturally she allowed me to cry and reminded me I had to grieve what I had wanted and that it was okay. I think it’s okay for you to spend some time grieving what you wanted to happen without feeling guilt. You love your baby, but it doesn’t take away from your feelings of sadness. 
I think it does take time to feel “okay” with what happened, and in some form it’s dealing with the trauma of the situation. If you ever need to talk, I’m here!

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