The past couple days I've realised I'm bothered about my partner's weight. He is classified as morbidly obese at this point and it terrifies me, he carries his weight around his organs which I know is a big deal for his health. He himself is bothered by it but he doesn't seem invested in losing weight either. Because I know he is unhappy with his body I don't feel like I can bring it up or talk about it, besides I'm worried he will think I'm saying I dislike him and just using his weight as an excuse. I love him, we just had our second child, I can't imagine my life without him. That's why his weight bothers me. I feel like I can't really be intimate with him anymore because I feel like I'm hiding things from him or lying to him. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him, but it's really getting to me. I think I'm more bothered by it now because I'm thinking about the fact we have 2 children and I don't want them to lose him either. He has been overweight the entire time I've known him but since we had our son 2 years ago he seems to have doubled in size. I just feel terrible about this, at first I thought I was losing my attraction to him but I've realised that hiding my concern is what's making intimacy hard right now. He doesn't look after his health in the slightest and basically refuses point blank to see a doctor about most things so I really worry how this could be affecting his health, I've noticed his breathing is getting bad in his sleep when he lies on his back and it scares me. I don't think I can talk to him about it though because I'm so worried about hurting him or pushing him away. What do I do? Where do I go from here? Even if I get no advice I think I just needed to release this a bit because it's eating up at me inside. Thanks to anyone that offers advice.