Okay I need some reaffirmation that km doing the right thing...

You need a smidge of backstory for this to make sense.

My mother adopted her first adoptee from the foster system many years ago about 5. We had fostered him since he was 6 he will be 18 next may. He is currently in juvenile detention and state custody until October when he is released. He was originally placed in a non lockdown me tal health home for exposing himself to me at 13 when he was 13. He has a long history of severe sexual abuse until he was 5. Like take the worst things you've heard and add a drug addicted mother and the father having physical custody. He was put into the home because there were other things like questionable sexual things with animals and stuff like that so it wasnt just oh he whipped his little peewee out and was looking for a rise. He was moved from that program because he did the same thing to a public school nurse and the state stepped in and pressed charges because of the pattern. Idk what the charges actually are but let me just say the judge who went lenient on him was the same POS who allowed him to go back to his fathers custody many years before with PROOF that he was doing horrible things.

And continuing.

So he was moved to a residential program that was still not lockdown while waiting on the charges because the house didnt want him there because he wrote some nasty things about what he wanted to do to the lady who ran that specific house. Lile really you guys are a therapeutic home for boys and have a WOMAN running the home get some spine. But anyways. His therapist at the facility was the worst I have ever seen and because he would make her uncomfortable with his staring at her boobs and butt she would wrap herself in a blanket during therapy and sit was a crock of shit. That didnt work either because he ran away and they were like no your on probation now jail for you. So hes been in a lockdown sex offender program for a load of other behaviors he developed during his 2 ish years in these programs. They cant put a kid like him in genpop because he could victimize vulnerable kids. So they know he is a rise. There was an unfounded accusation that he fondled a baby when he was 6 too but no proof cause it was made by his druggy mother when she was trying to get him back.

Okay now that you have some backstory to this child know my mother has proceed to adopt 3 girls ages 16 18 and 19 the 16 year old is in juvenile jail for violent assault of my mother one time and assaulting the 19 year old.

I have a 6 month old baby and he gets out in October. My husband and myself knowing the statistics and the risks even with him continuing therapy are not willing to allow him around our child ever. My parents do not agree with this and think we are being dramatic because he will be living with them for the foreseeable future. I will not risk my childs wellbeing on a hope that he has converted. I feel if you think someone could sexually abuse your child they do not belong in your life. I feel like I will be taking my parents away from my child and am so torn but if something happened I would never forgive myself and my husband would probably leave me because he has made his stance clear. My parents have the option of coming to our house for visits but I could see them bringing him with because he cannot be left alone in the house with the adopted adults because ya know he is completely fine but ugh it's an even longer story. I'm just looking for support. This is so long now but I dont know of sex offender support groups there is nothing. He technically is not a registered one but from what his therapist says he is on the edge of the line where he is only a step away and it is my choice if he sees my child initially it was going to be under supervision but I've had nightmares and read post and was judging others for the same thing I wanted to do. I'm just so defeated and cannot figure out the right thing.