Should I be jealous? Or have the right to feel uncomfortable?

PLS READ ALL OF IT AND HELP ME.

I’ll start by admitting that I’m the jealous type. Not crazy jealous though. I’ve never gotten mad at my bf for simply talking to a girl, I’ve never asked him to block or unfriend anyone, stop talking to someone, nor drop a friend. However I am trying to stop getting jealous or at least at irrelevant things. That’s why I need your OPINION!!

Let me give you some background story for you to understand my point of view.

So when I first met him and we started talking he was friends with this girl. She’s very pretty, outgoing, fun, she’s good at having guy friends which I admire. I have none. With looks she’s your typical Orange County girl. He’d tell me that she was his closest friend that she was like his sister. I liked the girl, she was nice to me and friendly. She was the nicest girl to me from his friend group. I wasn’t jealous of her I trusted him and her.

One time he asked me if i was jealous of her. And I told him no. He knew I’m the jealous type so he was like nah fr, be honest. And I was like I’m serious I’m not. If anything I’m just jealous of you guys’ friendship. I liked what they had and I wished I got to have that with him someday.

For example his friend group every Wednesday would go to yard house and apparently him and her would share food. One time I went with them and they were doing that.

Like a month later he told me that he distanced himself from her because he didn’t want me to be jealous of that. And I was surprised and kinda sad that he did that. Because I really had no problem. But at the same time it made me happy that he though of my feelings.

Fast forward to last week, I visited him in California and one day we were out driving, i got out the car to get something and when I got back he was facetiming her and he was like “alright I gotta go, I’m with (me)” he turns the screen to me and I say hi to her. He hangs up, and apparently he was inviting her to a birthday party his guy friend was having for his sister. She is also friends with this guy friend. Then she texts him and asks him what I’m wearing. I told him to tell her “a red floral skirt with a white tied T-shirt and sandals”.

So, we show up to the party at night already, we get there before her, like 30 min before. When she gets there I’m like what? She shows up with literally the same skirt as mine but blue, black croptop and sandals. I mean we laughed about it, or at least I did. But usually when a girl asks what another girl is wearing is to know what type of clothes to wear, like casual/formal/ semiformal/ etc. so yea, I was surprised to see that she wore literally the same concept of the outfit.

My bf was sitting on my left side, we had a long table in front of us and we were under a party tent and we were right against the tent so I couldn’t go around and hug her. So we hugged and my bf was kinda under us. When we hugged he said “mmm yea!” With a weird tone kinda like sexual. I didn’t say anything, and she kinda slightly hit his shoulder and said shut up, her tone was not serious, sort of like laughing jokingly.

I ignored it but it did bother me. It mainly made me question why? Then he was talking to her basically the whole time and I didn’t know anyone else at the party so I was just eating on the side. He was giving me his back too so it’s not like I could be part of the conversation.

Then we left and later I asked him why he did that and he laughed and said “haha you heard that?” And I was like “yea why did you say that” and he was like “do you have an idea why?” And I said “because our boobs?” and he said yea. So I asked him why and he said he was just joking and I told him that it wasn’t funny. It was disrespectful. He said sorry and that was the end of it.

However after that I was not very comfortable. Then, today he drove to a friends house and he was with him the whole day, he played soccer with him and another friend. 5 hours passed by and I hadn’t known anything about him. He usually texts me back when he’s done playing soccer. I call him and he hangs up the call. I call again and he answers and tells me that his phone broke again that he doesn’t know how he was able to answer because the screen was acting weird. I didn’t think anything of it. He then said that they’re having a little part with some of his friend group and that she’s gonna be there, she’s the only girl though. When he told me I was like mmm okay. Then he said that they’re all gonna sleep over and that made me more uncomfortable. He said he was gonna call me later.

She’s been documenting on her sc and ig kinda what they’ve been doing. So far just when they went to the store to buy drinks. She recorded him when about to pay, it was a quick video. But he had his phone, so I asked myself, why have your phone if it doesn’t work?

Then she was recording herself holding some drinks and chips with another guy. She then flipped the camera and my bf was carrying other things and was passing by and for some reason they were by the pads/tampons section and you could hear him say “what size pussy do you wear” I was like ??? Okay? Yea it’s a joke but also unnecessary. She then said “wtf” laughing and cut the video. I thought it was out of place for him to say that but idk, tell me what you guys think.

Hours passed and he hadn’t called me. So I called him again and no answer I thought well his screen is acting weird. But then he right away texts me and says hey love, my phone still glitching. And me already kinda annoyed told him “well isn’t it easier to click a green button than text if your phone is glitching?” He didn’t answer for a long time so I sent another message saying “anyways... I was calling to say goodnight. Call me when you can pls” he then again took hours to reply which I understand, and I said “hey love I’m with my friends” and I said “ok, I’m just saying because you told me you’d call me. So if you can’t lmk” and he said “I won’t baby sorry”. I know I asked him to lmk if he couldn’t but I didn’t expect for him to say no. I mean me as a person I’d call my SO goodnight, if I’m busy or with friends a 2 min call won’t hurt. I’d set myself to the side for 1-2 min and say goodnight. So yea it did hurt me that he said no but idk if I’m overthinking because of what I just said. Or what.

Also+++++

My birthday is on Monday (it’s Friday night) and I get the birthday blues EVERY YEAR. I get sad for no reason and idk how to not be sad or why I’m even sad. I get anxious just by thinking about it. So I’m already feeling weird because of that. He had told me that he was gonna come to my town for my birthday weekend. Clearly he’s not here. Since it’s on Monday I’m just guessing he’ll come Sunday or something. But somehow I have a feeling he forgot it, or forgot that he said he’d come. It is my first birthday with him. I’m kinda hoping he’s planning on surprising me and that’s why he isn’t here but at the same time the thought of him forgetting my birthday hurts a lot more.