Postpartum

So I had my second baby 5 days ago and am still recovering. With my first I had a 4th degree tear and then had complications with healing and wasn't able to be up and moving around for almost over a month. Luckily my mom was able to come stay with me the whole time. With this baby I was hoping for at least a smaller tear and shorter recovery time. Especially because on top of a newborn I also have a 18 month old I need to take care of.

Well, I still tore but it was smaller and I feel much better then I did with my first. But I'm still not up and moving around as much. My mom was up within a day or two and practically back to normal in a week when she had her babies. And my sister in law had a baby a few months ago and she was out at the store running errands within a few days. I can't help but compare myself to women around me and I just feel like a failure. My 18 month old is not handling the new baby very well and me taking longer to recover is making things harder. My husband and mom are great and assure me that I should take all the time I need but I still feel terrible.

How long was it before you were able to be up and doing things like making meals or cleaning up around the house?