So my husband loves BDSM. Thats all good. He normally is the sub though. Im not really into like he is. We always do some kind of BDSM no matter what we do. Well we have been lucky enough to be able to play without our child at home the last few weekends and again last night. Well I would dominate him these last few weekends but last night I told him I didnt want to i just wanted to have "vanilla" sex. Im tired of always have to play like that. He then says well I'll tie you up. No. I dont want that, I just want to have sex. It didn't have to be quick, im just tired of the BDSM every time. He throws out there that we do have regular sex. Yeah we might but its ALWAYS has some kind of kink to it which is fine but its always quickies. Anyways, last night he just tells me goodnight and goes back into the living room...never comes back until I'm asleep. I feel like he doesn't see that we always have that type of sex. He must not think of it as playing if we can't go full out. Since I'm not into BDSM like that I dont know if everyone that is wants it every single time they have sex or get off. Am I wrong for denying him last night?