Hi guys. I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this but I figured I’d give it a shot 🤷🏻‍♀️

My boyfriend and I have done anal once. I was a little buzzed and I was totally okay with it. To be honest the alcohol in my system helped me relax. We used enough lube and it was honestly fantastic for my first full anal experience. In the past, I had a guy accidentally put his dick where it didn’t belong (in my ass) and it hurt because it was an accident. So that was much better than my original first experience.

We tried it again a couple months ago but this time it hurt and I had him stop and now I’m afraid to do it again. I know it’s all in the mindset and using enough lube. I just can’t get past that fear in my head! And I know he wants to do anal stuff again. He literally took me to a sex store, saying he had nothing in mind, and was sad when I didn’t want to get any anal toys (never even owned one). So any advice on how you ladies get yourself to relax or the best kinds of lube or anything would help. I also need advice on how to explain to him that if he WANTS to do butt stuff then he HAS to use lube, and spit doesn’t equal lube!

TIA 💕