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Update:: Thank you all so much! I am supposed to be ovulating right now so we decided to give it a try yesterday and a couple days ago without protection. I made sure to log both days and we will be using protection until I am supposed to start my period just to be certain of dates. Really hoping for a little miracle. I won’t be discouraged if it doesn’t happen this month we will just keep “not preventing”. wish us luck and sprinkles of baby dust🖤🤞🏼We both seem to be pretty fertile people being that I was on BC for 5 years and the second I stopped we got pregnant so hoping this time around we get lucky again.
I really want to try again so bad. My husband and I were so excited to have a baby. The first week after I found out about my miscarriage it was really difficult emotionally. My OB said she recommends to everyone waiting 2-3 cycles before trying again but also said if it happens sooner it’s not the end of the world. I was 5 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby and didn’t find out until almost week 8. I bled for 10+ days and just stopped bleeding a couple days ago. I’ve heard people say with early miscarriages you can try as soon as you are ready but I’m not sure if that’s true or not. I just really really want a baby. I really want honest (but kind) opinions, risks, advice. 🌻🌊🌈

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I also had a chemical last month that I lost at 5 weeks and I’m pregnant again right now (4w6d). My doc said to wait a cycle but we just didn’t. It was really nice to try without worrying so much about the outcome. I knew that we would obviously be elated if I got pregnant right away but if it wasn’t our month, that would be ok too cause it would give my body time to heal. I think continuing to try was very cathartic for me. Sending you lots of love and just know that you can try whenever YOU feel ready💗

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I was told to wait a cycle after each MC. However, my body on the other hand had different ideas and would shut down until it was ready (except with chemical pregnancies those I got pregnant with twins the next cycle twice). If you want to try again soon, I would try not to worry if it doesn’t happen fast, your body is still adjusting and healing.

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The only reason to wait is if you have a D&C.
With this procedure, they scrape your lining, and remove everything, so it takes two cycles to build the lining back up to normal thickness.
If the lining is too thin, the embryo can't implant as deeply.
With a regular early miscarriage, I don't think that there's any medical reason to wait other than your body just being out of whack.

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Not sure why she recommended the length of time that she did, but I agree that it’s more about when you’re ready. I miscarried at 8 weeks in February and wasn’t ready to start trying again until May. Resulted in pregnancy and ended in miscarriage in June again. I am now pregnant again and realized that each time frame has been about 3 months. One thing I do agree with is waiting until you have at least one cycle for tracking purposes. I have ALWAYS had 28 day cycles. Always predictable, nothing changes. After my first miscarriage, my cycle did it’s own thing being both late and early the next time. I’m so sorry for your loss.....having that excitement ripped from you is the worst thing. I have shared my pregnancies with a few close people early on and honestly it was helpful in my healing process. I didn’t feel alone.

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I was 6 wks when I had my miscarriage. I’m currently 15 wks with our little boy. We didn’t intentionally wait it was just harder because my body was off track. I don’t think you’ll ever be emotionally ready. My miscarried baby would be due in two months and even though I am blessed with this little boy I still think about the what if’s you know? Whenever you are ready....

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My fertility nurse said that the only reason you're asked to wait is so they can date you properly using your lmp, go for it!

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There are all kinds of stories, but if you want a happy one, my BFF shared with me that her mom got pregnant with her 3 weeks after a loss at 12 weeks. And my BFF is about to turn 33, so that worked out well! 
I’m so sorry about your loss 💔

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First off I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. I’m two weeks past my second miscarriage in a row and the midwife I saw suggested to wait until I got one period and then I could try again but that was solely because of dating purposes and said if I wanted to try again right away I could. I’ve read some comments on other posts that’s saying the waiting 2-3 cycles is outdated and has no proof that it will cause harm to you or baby if you conceive right after (I believe I’m a special case unfortunately). I’d express your desire to try as soon as you’ve emotionally healed with your doctor and see if she can give you more information and/or support. Good luck💕

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I was told to wait a cycle, and that’s what I am doing. We want a baby, miscarriages are common and we are ready to try again. I’m pretty sure I was ready before I had fully miscarriaged.

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Personally I’m not mentally ready I’m still emotional. The ob told me this week to wait at least one menstrual￼ cycle so they can track easier I guess. Plus it gives your body time to restart! If I were emotionally ready then yeah I would literally be trying right away!!

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