Bed sharer to crib sleeper?!??

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Not looking to be told I never should have started co-sleeping because honestly, I know and tell myself often that it was the wrong decision for different reasons. It really started with my daughters severe acid reflux, I had panic attacks imagining her choking in her sleep, so I did what I felt like was best as a new mom, and I’m still glad that I did. 
But now my baby is 14 months old, and I cannot get her to sleep in her crib AT ALL. I mean she used to sleep in it a few times a week, or til about 5 am and then we’d move her to our bed to get us all more sleep. But now the second we go to move her she throws the biggest fits. She’s hysterical about being in her own space. I know it’s best for all of us to make the change now. I just don’t know how to MAKW the transition.  
Please help. I need real ideas. How can I transition her to sleeping in her own space? I’ve tried putting her down drowsy and it’s def a NOOOO go. She throws fits so bad she’s got a runny nose and horse voice. I don’t have it in my heart to let her cry it out. I’m really desperate for a real solution, like bed sharing weaning for a mommy with all the feels. For reference we do room share because our living situation currently. Help meeeeeee. Pleaase. Pic for attention !!!!

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I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to say that I agree with not letting her cry it out. That will increase separation anxiety and make the situation worse. Good luck ❤️

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We had my son in a cheap small toddler bed in our room to start around 14 or 16 months, I would "lay" with him sitting on the floor and head on his pillow til he fell asleep then moved him into his own room doing the same thing. Within the next year we got him bunk beds so I was able to physically lay with him and cuddle while we read a story and he would fall asleep quickly and I just made it shorter and shorter amounts of time. He still would get into our bed at night when he would get up to go pee when he was 4.5 which was fine but he's almost 6 now and he sleeps in his bed all night no problem. Every kid is different and I'm sure there are much better ways to go about it than what I did 😂 but I hated to see him cry so and I didn't mind laying with him and giving him cuddles at the end of the day before bed! So it worked for us, Goodluck finding something that works for you guys💕💕💕

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Try introducing a lovey? I didn’t save the article but I did reading once about non-CIO method with a lovey to introduce and slowly allow them to attach to it while transitioning into the crib.

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What about having her crib right next to ur bed so u can put ur hand in if necessary to let her know - it’s ok mommy is here to start with..

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Have no advice to be honest, I had my baby in his crib by 3.5 months 😬 but I do know that it will be a gradual and slow transition. Maybe remind her that mama is here in the same room, just not in the same bed. If she cries then don't move her to your bed, just reassure her. It's definitely separation anxiety and honestly too late in the game for CIO method.

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Was in this exact situation with my daughter. There is really no easy way to do it other than to be consistent. I ended up putting her in her crib and sleeping on the floor next to her for about a week and that seemed to help a lot until she was comfortable 
Good luck! I feel your pain, trust me.

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Honestly, don't try too hard. My son started sometimes sleeping by himself around age 3 (actually did around 2, but got a lot of ear infections and we had to start over) and now sleeps in his own room through the night at almost 4. I agree with the start with naps part, especially since she's already used to it occasionally. Once she's sleeping every nap in her crib you can try night time. What helped my son is seeing it as his own space so maybe let her pick out a decoration to put nearby, toss around the crib, and a special sleep toy might help. I never even let him cry, though. If he started crying he came back with me. I also just transitioned him to a toddler bed, though so I often fell asleep with my head on the bed to get him to sleep lol. I think that helped him realize that when he's scared I'll be there. A good routine helps as well. For my son, it's brush teeth, put on night clothes, and get in bed for 1 book, then good nights and I love yous are said.

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Start with naps. Get her to lay in it & tell her how big she is. She will cry, but she has to learn that that’s her bed & where she should sleep at. I let my kids cry it out but to a certain point. It killed me but I let it go on for about a couple mins then would go in there reassure her that it’s okay & it’s time for naps, then go back at it again. It’s so hard but after a week the nap thing should get a lot easier. I’m pretty after a week both mine was good for naps, then you work on night time. It’s a hard process but the only advice I can give is for her to cry it out to a certain point. She will get there!

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I don’t have any advice but I wanted to commend your attachment parenting! 💕 And recommend The Beyond Sleep Training Project group on fb. They follow the attachment parenting style and would be loads of help for you!

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I transitioned my daughter to her crib around 13 months. She just turned 15 months and it was the best decision! She slept in my bed and I loved it, but I also worried a lot that she would roll off the bed or that I would roll on her. I also got tired of having to tip toe around and just wanted some space. I could not do cry it out. I was dreading it and kept putting it off but finally bit the bullet to give it a try. I got a sound machine, we like rain, and black out curtains. I put a few familiar/safe toys with her and extra binkies and a lovey. She sleeps in a sleep sack. I just would put in her bed and sit by her until she fell asleep.  No talking or anything. I would say the same thing each time so she knew it was night night time. For both naps and bedtime. I did this gradually so she wouldn’t freak and then started leaving the room. She would cry and I’d go in and comfort and do it all over again. I will say after a few days when she knew I would be coming back, I did let her cry for a couple minutes and went back in. My heart couldn’t take it so I didn’t really continue that. I did what I was comfortable with. And it may have taken longer than others because of it but I don’t care:) The first few nights/days were rough. But then I noticed she started self soothing and playing for awhile and then just lying down and going to sleep. It was the best feeling! Now I can just put her in the crib and I say the same things that I always do and leave. She also started sleeping better and longer than when she was in bed with us! We still have an off night sometimes where I can’t just lay her down without her fussing and I’ll have to sit beside the crib but even if I do its only about 10-15 mins. So it’s still not perfect but so much progress since we started! It just took her a couple weeks to feel safe and secure in her crib and to know mommy was coming back.   
I kept reading others advice about consistency is key, and it’s so true! Routine routine routine.

Bed sharer to crib sleeper?!??

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