Marriage & Open Relationship

As a married woman, would u accept a polyamorous relationship? If your spouse wont stop cheating but you also won't leave him for it, doesnt it make sense to just accept and embrace it? To cut out the secrets and dishonesty, im considering allowing the other woman into our life and bed.. ive been told to NEVER allow an extra person into the marriage BUT its pretty much happening anyway whether i like it or not. There is nothing i can do to stop it. He has a high sex drive and I do not. I dont like denying him but also not giving him an alternative for his "needs".

Even before marriage there was always another woman. Ive realized how unfair it is to ask him to only be with me if he is not that type of man (exclusive). We all know the saying "u teach ppl how to treat you" and by forgiving his cheating for over 9years i guess ive taught him that he can continue without consequence. My threats to divorce are not powerful enough lol. If i cant beat em, ill join em

Besides him stepping out, the marriage is going okay. Could be better, could be worse. Having another woman enter our relationship doesnt have to be a permanent thing. Maybe just to spice things up. Ive also considered giving him 3sums while on vacation (maybe then he will want to plan more trips😁)🤔🤔if he doesnt want close proximity to her. Idk what to do. Honestly im more annoyed, disappointed and irritated than heartbroken as my heart hasnt yet healed from the last time he cheated.

Each time this happens I feel a distance grow between us. We have a 4mo old and I know the advantages of having both parents in the same household. I want our marriage to work for the sake of black love and our son. I know we as ppl will never be perfect and therefore. Will never have a perfect marriage.

What are your thoughts/opinions? Have you been in an established (agreed upon) open marriage? What about 3sums with your husband-what was the result? Good or bad.