Please if you have time read this and give me your honest opinion/advice. I really need it. I’m really upset!

My boyfriend and I have a 2 year old and I’m currently pregnant with baby number 2. I feel like we never spend any quality time together. Whenever I tell him this he says that we spend more time together than any other couple...

This is what our typical day looks like...

We wake up, he either is getting ready to go to a job (he’s self employed) or he goes downstairs and sits on the couch on his phone. Our son eats breakfast during this time. He then continues to sit on the couch. Showers or uses the washroom. This is literally our day. When our son is napping he smokes weed usually or sits on the couch and we sometimes will watch tv together. I’m 95% of the time the one that puts our child to bed and cooks/cleans/does laundry.

Come the evening time he smokes for 2-3 hours on average. He comes inside anywhere between 10:30-12:30am. He usually just sits on the couch and watches tv, plays video games or heats up the oven for food while I’m already upstairs in bed. He will then sometimes go smoke again before coming to bed. On average he comes to bed between 1:30am and 3:30am (closer to 3am lately). The odd time he will come upstairs after smoking but usually he stays downstairs.

I always tell him I want to spend time together. He will promise me a massage (This pregnancy I honestly really need them) and then when it comes time to him coming to bed he will say “no I’m too tired.” We don’t even have sex anymore. Even though he’s always saying “tonight I’m fucking you I don’t care...” I’m like turned off by him almost. I don’t care to have sex with him. I’m the type that needs to feel loved in other ways - especially with quality time. If I don’t feel loved then I just shut off completely.

I find him to be selfish and just not supportive while I’m pregnant. I hardly EVER have cravings, but whenever I do he literally won’t help me with them (I currently don’t drive so I can’t get it myself) but if he has a craving he literally alwaysssss gets it for himself.

For example, just this evening he grabbed his keys so I asked where he was going he said he needed to get cigarettes for his bong. I said “oh can you please get me cookies I’m really craving them” he said “if they’re there if not no” he came back and said they didn’t have any. I was a little annoyed, so he’s like “you don’t believe me? Whatever..” and went outside and smoked and we haven’t spoken since. I ’m like you couldn’t have just went to grab them for me? You were going out anyways.

He’s so insensitive to me too. He yells at me all the time. He’s Swears. He will say something to me and then the next day argue with me that he never said it and say “you’re crazy, your pregnancy brain is bad, you make me feel like I’m the crazy one, I can’t handle this, I didn’t say that...”

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so unhappy. He literally annoys me. I don’t want to really be around him. I don’t want to sleep next time him. I feel horrible saying it but I don’t feel loved or supported. Pregnancy is so hard for me and its like he doesn’t care. He can’t even spend time with me. He’d rather smoke for hours. Whenever I talk to him it usually turns into his yelling even when I’m talking calmly and he tells me to leave if im so unhappy or him saying he’s going to quit smoking and he never does...thoughts? Am I wrong? He’s always in a bad mood I feel like. It’s just exhausting.