How do you know if it’s time for a divorce? There’s nothing majorly wrong- no abuse, no cheating. I’m just not happy and we have both changed. I still care for him but he annoys me and adds work to my life. I’m almost a year post partum with 3 kids under 4 so not sure if I’m just in survival mode right now or done with his shit. My priorities have changed to focus on the kids. His ha not- he still drinks and wants to mod his truck and do all the pre-kid things we did which I just can’t manage (I can’t juggle 3 small kids and bbq on the deck with daquaris etc). He also has a very negative attitude (has some untreated depression- will never take meds for it ever) and so everything is so much more difficult. I’m a very glass is half full person. For example, today we had family photos at 8 am. It was an hour drive to the location and our oldest gets car sick so we had to leave time for dealing with carsickness. I packed all the clothes and props (wagon, blankets etc) last night had to iron clothes, get breast pump clean and ready, snacks etc. he was frustrated and said “at some point enough is enough and we just need to relax and I’m gonna call it” like he was going to tell em to stop preparing for tomorrow bc he needed to destress and watch tv. Then today he was annoyed and so negative because he didn’t get to sleep in on a Saturday (kids never sleep in so neither do I- lucky him 🙄). And was super negative that we paid so much money for a half an hour sessions and had to deal with carsickness (she never got sick this trip tho).

So it’s just a lot of little things. He’s depressed and it effects my attitude. I resent him for not helping more with things- the kids, the house. He resents me for not doing more because laundry is a mess etc but I don’t stop all day till he says it’s time for relax time. Oh yeah and he HAS to have dinner and a drink and tv at night to relax before bed. I can’t be running around the house doing dishes or cleaning because he won’t wind down. Ugh. I just feel like divorce is overkill because I’m just annoyed and that the kids are better off with both of us under one roof.

He won’t do counceling and we have discussed these things before and never got anywhere. Thanks for listening.