I love him to death but lately I haven’t had the patience I normally have. I think it’s part me and part him. I just do not know.

In January he quit his job to do a training session for sheet metal (Yes he could have transferred positions and instead of taking day classes for 4 weeks he would have had to taken 8 weeks of night classes and worked part time - but still would have had a job) but I still supported him. Then we moved forward and got a house bc we were living in his moms house for 2 years. Market was great so we went for it. We’ve been living in our new house and haven’t fully finished unpacking. I work About 50 hours a week and still have to cook & clean most day. Then he did find a job (making decks) which uses him as he needed. There is no security in it. He doesn’t work over time. He works 35 hours tops and yet the only thing I can 100% count on him doing is the laundry once in a while. I feel he rarely does dishes but he feels he does them often. I just wish he was more proactive!

I don’t know if maybe I’m being a bitch and should let it go and cut him some slack. Am I justified? How do I Motive him? I actually am less mad at him not finding a job... I’m more mad that I’ve been traveling for work and I asked him to reglue these chairs and I’ll do it tomorrow and tomorrow has yet to come. Idk I believe in giving people chances... I know he’s been depressed and feeling like shit but he isn’t looking to expand his horizon. I want to make this work but I don’t know how to not get annoyed when I am working from home and he is playing video games. He could be changing light fixtures, scraping the door frame, spray painting, hanging up the swing... I mean there’s So Much More home Projects I could that he could invest his time on.

Please help!