My daughter is 8 weeks old (today) and has had colic since she was between 1 and 2 weeks old. I wanted to post this not for advice because let’s face it I’ve tried everything but for my own sanity!

We have been dealing with the devil, I mean a colicky baby for going on 7 weeks now. Don’t get it twisted my baby is not the devil it’s this thing that is the devil. Its almost psychological torture it is absolutely awful. Listening to your crying child and you swear sometimes in my case she is in pain but remember you’ve tried everything. Increasing gas drops by giving after every feeding, gripe water, white noise, swaddle, bouncing, car rides, brisk walks through the neighborhood and yes they can help but we all know they are temporary fixes for like 5 minutes then they are back at it. Only thing that makes the crying stop is sleep. Precious precious sleep. Soooo what’s the point? These are the things that I have learned throughout the hours I’ve tried to tune out my beautiful crying child.

1. It’s not my spouses fault - it’s extremely hard to remember that since he isn’t home to deal with it, most of the time. He works long hard hours and he does help when he can but at the end of the day he’s a dude and not used to the crying like I am. I have been guilty of taking out my frustrations on him and it’s not his fault she has the devil in her right now. I have been better and we have been better the last couple days. A new baby can be really tough on a partnership.

2. Sometimes it’s ok to let her cry - not for hours of course, I’m not a monster, like a minute tops before I try to console or continue the bouncing. I need those seconds to take a breath, tell myself I am not a terrible mother because I can’t get her to stop crying. And hell yeah there have been couple occasions I’ve cried with her.

3. Accept help - not from the drunk neighbor who has offered but my mom or mother in law or anytrusted person. They want to help me and I shouldn’t sacrifice that cause of my own stubbornness or guilt. I should be lucky I have loved ones willing to give me a mental break when I need it.

4. I love cool ranch Doritos especially the ones loaded with cool ranch seasoning. Yum.

Anyway I digress, I keep hearing it won’t last forever and I know but it’s happening now and the only thing I can control is the now. So parting words to the Mommy’s and daddy’s out there dealing with a colicky baby I feel your pain. Yours in solidarity.