After experiencing a miscarriage earlier this year, I am pregnant once again. I let my manager know early on as the morning sickness was kicking my butt. I asked her to keep it private until I knew for sure everyone was going smoothly with the baby.

Last week I found out that every single person in our office knows. (I’m currently working from home.) My boyfriend and I work for the same company but in separate departments. One of his really trust worthy friends told him that it was my Manager going around telling everyone I was pregnant, and that she was even spreading the news about who the baby’s father was (who is my boyfriend). Everyone started asking him questions about whether he knew or not, to which he replied,”It’s none of our business on what they do outside work.” My boyfriend and I are very private, which is why we told no one at work about our relationship. What happens in our personal life is not for the office to be spreading about as it’s not their business.

I feel bad for my boyfriend because they are making things extremely uncomfortable for him at work. Every time he is in the office, my Manager just stares at him along with other people from the department. They don’t say anything but they just stare... He even asked to be off this Friday as he has a doctors appointment. His Manager said it was fine and to just email it his one person and it was good. Today when he asked about it, his Manager said he doesn’t even know if he can give him the day off anymore. (I found out from my friend that his Manager found out about us now.)

It’s been confirmed through 3 different people that my Manager was telling everyone I was pregnant. It makes me extremely upset because I have not announced to any of my family or my boyfriends family. The only people aware are our intermediate ones and a close couple of friends who I trust. My friend recently went back to the office and they were all bombarding her with questions about us. Everyone is trying to get into our business, like it’s a show for them to enjoy.

It doesn’t feel as if my Manager even likes me as I feel like she always has an issue with me. She likes to keep track of the number of breaks I take and even tracks how long I take to wrap up a call. Even after my 1st proper prenatal appointment with my doctor, she advised for me to relax the rest of the day since we did a whole bunch. When I let my Manager know I would be taking the rest of the day off, she immediately starting asking everything they did to me at the appointment.. I felt really uncomfortable because that’s private and there was no need for her to know. I even asked for a doctors note as an excuse for taking the rest of the day off.

I went into work late one day because of my morning sickness and she kept tabs on me as soon as I logged on. I wasn’t feeling 100% but I didn’t want to miss more work. I ended up taking 2 breaks and had 1 long wrap up due to my well being. She immediately called me and asked what’s going on. I told her I wasn’t feeling well but Im doing the best I can to take calls. All she responded with was,”Ok?” And with that it was just about 20 seconds of awkward silence. She then said that she’s not going to be paying me if I’m not taking calls. At that point, I had enough as she previously had been getting after me for the same reasons. I told her I was taking the rest of the day off to get better. I’ve gone to the doctor for medication but at the time, it was not helping to which my doctor prescribed even stronger medication.

I don’t know, I just needed to let this out as I’ve been dealing with it ever since I found out. Maybe it was my fault for keeping everything a secret but then again, it’s not my Manager’s business to be sharing MY pregnancy..