I think I have a husband problem

We’ve been together 10 years. Studied together, moved cities together, travelled together, grew our careers together, bought a home and started a family together. Yet, recently (last few years) I feel less than with him...

Since having our first child, he’s not enforced boundaries with his family and allowed them to behave inappropriately towards me. This has been a major problem the last 2 years...

Because of the lack of support I’ve felt the need to go back to my roots and be around family and friends, which is also where we met and lived independently for a few years, but the area is 3 hours away....

Now with 2 kids, I feel incredibly isolated and alone - 3 hours away from any support. I keep mentioning possibly moving to a city 1 hour away from them but he’s always turned me down. The only reason why he hasn’t rebuked it this last month is because one of his friends had said he was moving to this city because his partner wanted to be closer to her family. So to me, it’s like it’s only ok if he has something or someone else to compare to or move for.... I feel second best.

This year I’ve struggled so much mentally. Words cannot describe the pain I’ve been through, the suicidal thoughts, the isolation and the emotional hardship. I’m starting to think that moving would do my mental state a world of good but I can’t leave a man I’ve built my whole life around.