Does this seem fair or am I wrong ?
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So my daughter is only 9 months old. Her father and I were in a relationship until about 1.5 ish months ago. When we were together, I did all the care for her. She is special needs and on a strict feeding schedule doing tube feedings. We work with a cardiologist, nutritionist, surgeon, occupational therapist, and physical therapist as well as a specialist for her helmet and head growth. On top of that I have her signed up for a program that comes and visits and helps with resources for her and us as a family. I was not working when him and I were together, he paid bills and I took care of her full time and did all of her appointments and housework when I was able to and schooling part time. I gave him my school money and bought what I could with that money. Anyways, now we are broken up and he has already started dating someone else. We both agreed I could live here and help with the bills whilst coparenting but once she came into the picture he was kind of pressuring me to move out. He had a month long break from his job due to medical circumstances so I paid the whole bills for the month of October out of our daughter's savings fund which is fine or whatever but at the same time it makes me upset because that money was our daughter's and he has no intentions to add anything to it and he never has I was the only one putting into the fund ever. Through the state I was ordered child support since she is on state medicaid, and he said I can just give it all back to him for bills, which is whatever but i'm confused how my daughter will be getting anything for herself if all my money is going back to him? Where does my daughter benefit? He has been blowing his money on whatever he wants (wine, food for himself, random things he wants online) which is whatever but he should have thought about the bills. His excuse was he thought he would be working sooner and getting more hours than he is. Today I hit my breaking point. I take care of my daughter 99% of the time. Doing tube feedings every 3 hours, numerous apts etc. I never get a break, I can't leave without worrying if she will be fed. I am the one who makes sure she is fed and I take her with me everywhere because he isnt allowed to be home alone with her. I asked him to be home by a certain time to help me with her while I did my online schooling. He never answered me so I was left to do it myself. I told him to f*ck off because at this point he does nothing but put my daughter last. He would rather be out running the streets with his new girlfriend than taking care of her. He argued with me and said he has done a few of her feeds this week. She has to do 6-8 feeds a day, 7 days a week. Him doing like 6 in a week when it is convenient for him isn't very much, seeing as im also expected to do my own life, the cleaning of the house he dirties as well, and pay just as much bills and somehow afford my daughter, on top of doing her apts and working part time. I would much rather he signs his rights off. Im so broken here idk what to do I wish I could leave and get myself and my daughter in a better situation 😭😭😭. Am I just being a bitter baby momma or are my feelings valid because I feel like my daughter is being treated like nothing now.💔💔💔 Please I just need help, advice, something.
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