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do u think ur life is better with ur baby?baby is 6 months and i feel like i hate my life now idk how people say a baby is so amazing!!!

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I’m extremely sad for YOU. I don’t think these comments are fair. It’s okay to say that you’re not happy. It’s okay to say that it’s not the fairytale you dreamed it would be. 
Am I happier with baby? Omg YES!!! I say that almost daily. But I also have days where my teenager drives me up the wall or my tween disappoints me and makes me feel like I’m doing a bad job. There are occasional nights where I get frustrated because I’m tired and baby won’t sleep. 
If you are not happy, please reach out to someone close to you for help. Get a much needed night off. Talk to your doctor about possible PPD. Find your happiness.

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Oh mama. I felt this. When I got home from the hospital, I thought, "this isnt the life I want. What did I do". I spoke to my doctor about how I was feeling and comes to find out, I was suffering a bit from ppd. Having a baby is A LOT. you come home, you're expected to take care of a helpless little human all while trying to recover and running on little to no sleep !
But now my son is 5 months. The more he smiles at me and looks into my eyes , I fall more and more in love with him. I couldn't picture my life without him. Yes, it is hard. Before my son I was the most selfish person and the biggest workaholic.  I liked my "me time" and I loved to spend money on myself. 
I read another comment on here saying that you may just be a mom "who loves the toddler stage and up" that may be true. For me, I wasnt a big fan of the newborn stage. I love how hes getting to be more interactive and acknowledging me more.
Just keep your chin up. Dont listen to negative comments. Stay away from negative vibes. Talk to close friends. Talk to your doctor. (They're there to help you. Not judge you). 
Sending you a virtual hug.

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I absolutely think my life is better with my baby. Sure I can’t do the things that I used to do, but that’s part of growing up and taking responsibility. You shouldn’t have a baby if you aren’t ready to give those things up. Obviously accidents happen, but there are so many preventative options that are available for women such as birth control, condoms, etc. Your baby doesn’t deserve to feel like they’re a burden to you. Not saying you said that, but you say you hate your life now. My baby was an accident due to carelessness but god I can’t imagine my life without my son now. He’s literally the greatest joy in my life and those things that I used to be able to do before my son I don’t even care about anymore.

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I’m extremely sad for your baby.

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I absolutely love my daughter she brings a joy to my life I never imagined before. Having said that it changes life. The cost and time associated with her limits things that are possible in my life that I wanted. Someday maybe they will be possible again maybe they won’t. I don’t know. It hard to swallow that some days but it was my choice to have her and I would never want her thinking she made my life worse. I just wonder if you are having a bad day or rough go or lack support or struggling with PPD which can still happen. Maybe ask yourself why you feel this way.

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I wouldn’t say it’s better but it’s not worse either, but hat I would say though is, now that I have my LO I couldn’t possibly imagine my life without her. More than anything I hate the days where I’m constantly worrying about anything bad happening to her, it terrifies me and I hate that feeling. Life’s definitely not as it used to be but seeing my LO happy and smiling back at me makes it all worth it. I’m pretty sure you’re not the only one feeling like this but hang in there mama, it’ll get better. 💕

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Oh hun! I'm so sorry you are feeling this way! Please mention it to your doctor. There is always a possibility that you are dealing with PPD. The current state of the world doesn't help much with that and could be a big factor as well. I know for our family everything has been shut down still and since all the fires we haven't been able to go outside and many people are suffering from depression. Add a baby to the mix and it's harder. People are affected different ways. Please, please, please talk to your doctor!
You also just might be one of those people who doesn't enjoy the baby side of parenting but loves the toddler stage and up. Just be patient with yourself and ask others for help right now. Hopefully, with some counseling and time for growth you will end up loving it.
That being said- I absolutely love my baby! I love him so much I get stressed letting my MIL watch him even if it is just for an hour or two so I can go do chores and shop. We still don't take him out in public. I can't imagine my life without him. He is the most perfect gift I have ever received! I was nervous in the beginning. Due to covid we didn't have anybody over for the first few weeks. Now it's just been my in laws and they never stay more than an hour or two. He still hasn't met a whole lot of people. The last time he got to see somebody besides my in laws was 3 months ago and just 1 time each in a very private setting with minimal people who were following rules. I have gotten so much bonding time with him it has been such a blessing! 
My husband took a few more months to adjust. He couldn't cope with the newborn stage. Wouldn't even hold him a lot of the time and stayed away when he could. Now that our baby tries to communicate and can show emotions my husband is all about him! It just took a while. He also had to do a bit of counseling to handle the changes life was throwing our way as a family. Even though we went through a lot to get our baby he wasn't mentally prepared like we thought and he got a touch of depression. It happens. It's ok. He just needed a little help.
Again- please ask your doctor for help. Remember the world won't be like this forever. Your baby won't be this little forever.

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Yikes. I would recommend seeing a doctor ASAP. You’re possibly suffering from some postpartum depression. Life with a baby definitely isn’t the same - but you certainly shouldn’t hate life because of your child.

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Babies are hard and sometimes parenting sucks. You have every right to feel like you are not happy. I don’t know what some of these really mean comments are about but find help. You may be having post partum depression. 
 My child was 100% planned. In fact he’s a rainbow baby and 1000000% loved. Do I need a break sometimes because I’m jugging working from home and caring for my teething infant? Yes every fucken day. 
It’s hard worrying about a little person right now during these weird times. I didn’t plan on having a baby during a pandemic. I didn’t plan on working from home full time while also caring for my baby. The pandemic interrupted a lot of things for people. 
A lot of these people saying mean things to you are probably the same people raging and yelling at everyone around them then pretending everything in their life is perfect. 
Find help. 
We don’t know what your circumstances are and we should not judge you. 
I hope you are ok. 
I hope you could feel joy in your heart and I hope you could find joy with your little one. They really can be a lot of fun. 
I hope these “Instagram” vs “reality” pics of my baby make you laugh.

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Honestly I feel like a couple of these comments (even if it wasn’t the person’s intentions) might bring you down even more so I’m sorry about that! 
But please reach out to your doctor. Talking to someone regularly or medication may end up helping you.
But yes my baby is my world now. Somedays I think “did I have him too soon into our marriage??” But then I remember that everything happens for a reason and I wouldn’t change anything now. I love seeing his face first thing in the morning. To me that’s my reminder every day that having him was our best decision since marriage. 
I hope you start feeling better soon❤️

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