Do you Ferber?

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Let me start by saying that whatever your response THERE ARE NO JUDGMENTS HERE! What works for one doesn't work for all, I'm just genuinely curious to hear different experiences. My brother and SIL used the Ferber sleep training method with all 4 of their kids and so far so good, I just can't let myself do it with my 4 month old. I've tried but I just don't see the point in letting him cry it out when I could just as easily rock him to sleep and then we both go to bed less stressed out. Every time I've tried to do it he's fought sleep and fussed but the second I pick him up he's out! We don't co-sleep all the time but I've found letting him fall asleep in bed with me works well too. How do you put your little one down?

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I let my daughter cry no more than 5 to 10 minutes.  I feel that is enough time unless i am upset and need a break, which isn't often.  She is great at sleeping. She slept with me almist everynl night but not all night till she was 3 and a half months old. We moved her to her own crib in her own room. She is 16 months old now and has never had problems falling asleep on her own. She talks and fusses a little and goes to sleep. We do have a routine each night to get her body ready for bed though. I get her in her nighty, we brush her teeth,  read a few stories, play a little till shes tired. Then she turns on her noise maker/projector and turns off the light. We pray for her, give her her blanket and pacifier. And she falls asleep.

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I never used the cry it out method and both of my children learned in their toddler years to put themselves to sleep just fine. I think you need to do what's best for you and your baby. My girls are 7 and 10 and yes they still occasionally sleep with me when my SO isn't here but they are very capable of falling asleep on their own and sleeping through the night and have been able to do so since they were little.

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I co slept with my daughter. There were some nights (very few) where she slept in her crib all night but most times she would wake after four hours. So co sleeping worked best for us. I didn't care whether she slept in her bed or mine, I just wanted to get as much sleep as possible. Lol.  It wasn't until she was 15 or 16 months old that she consistently slept the whole night in her crib. So I think that was just the right time for her. She's 19 months old now 😊 my advice is don't like society or other moms make you feel like you have to do things a certain way. Whatever works for you is best.

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It's like everything with parenting. Do what works for you and your family. If you are wanting to sleep train, there are gentler methods than ferberising (if you aren't comfortable with that approach) that work on the same principal but in small, manageable doses. If its not bothering you, then don't worry about it. There is no right way to put a baby to sleep. Honestly. Just go with what works for you. I will warn you (as a rocker and someone who didn't use cry it out) your baby will eventually get too big too rock and then you are going to have to rethink you strategy. I really like Dr Harvey Karp for different approaches to sleep. Good luck and enjoy your cuddles :)

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You're not supposed to sleep train until 6 months. 4 months is too young and they're in the midst of sleep regression because they're transitioning out of that newborn sleep cycle to the sort of sleep cycle adults experience.

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I see how it's hard to let your child cry it out, but it's important that your child learns how to put them self to sleep. If your child always gets rocked before they go to sleep, then they will have a hard time going to sleep without you rocking them and this will continue into their toddler years. This is just what I know from experience.

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It was really hard for me to do it but its a self soothing technique for them, i would do it and it always put them to sleep as well as made for a perfect napping schedule and my faughter is now 3 and has the same napping schedule  since then. I also do it with my son, i thinks it works great! Its just very hard to adjust to cause nobody wants to hear their kids cry forever but eventually it gets better

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