Seeking what might be best that I can’t really think of for my son. I don’t want his holidays to be miserable. But selfishly wish I could just have him for all and split each and have at least some time on the actual days but feeling like I might need to start celebrating unconventionally every other year or something. For the moment the court ordered our holidays to be split 10-2 and 2-6 , my son is only 1, but my older son is 4 and I know that being shuffled around on holidays is never fun. What are others arrangements that work for them? My sons dad has a history of alcoholism, it seems to be better but I’m not 100% sure and holidays were always worse, the last year has been hell through court trying to get them to recognize it, so holidays at all are daunting but trying to not get lost in what ifs