Discipline

So I'm a mom if 2 boys, 1 and 2. Pregnant with our girl. I grew up in a home where my mom thought it was ok to hit us when she was upset or if we did anything wrong. She never tried to talk to us about why we did something wrong it was always just screaming and then slapping or spanking or tossing us around, calling us names. Anyways I always swore that I wouldn't be that way with my kids. I feel if my mom tried to sit down and talk to us rather than hitting us things would have been better with us today. So, no, I dont spank my kids. The most I do is a tap on the hand. Usually we do time outs. It has definitely worked for us so far but they're at that age where they're starting to act up, going through their phases of not wanting to listen. They're dad grew up the same way I did but in his head it's okay because they "need to learn" I'm not writing this post to get bashed about choosing not to spank or yell at my kids but to ask how someone who does the same thing handles an SO who thinks that it's okay. We will argue all day about it and he'll never think he's wrong. He wont compromise with me. Any time he's a little aggravated with the boys he's immediately yelling or spanking. My 2 year old is potty trained so he isn't in diapers anymore. Sometimes he doesnt wanna wear his pants so he'll be in a shirt and underwear which is ok while we're home. Well a few times my SO has gotten upset and spanked him, leaving red marks on his leg/butt area and then yelling at him immediately after. It makes me sad to see my kids being treated this way. I've asked him again and again to please just stop but he thinks it's okay. I know that if I leave him over that people will think it's stupid and at the same time if we do split up I know he'll continue disciplining the same way, I just wont be here to stop it or make sure he isn't being to harsh on them. They're only 1 and 2. Is it a good reason to leave ? I mean we've talked about it over and over but with him it's always "his way or the highway" he's never wrong. 🙄