I can’t handle my Mom, I need advice.

So I’ll try and make this short. I’m 29, My parents adopted 4 children, and I’m the youngest. I was adopted with my older sister, and then I have two brothers that are older that are related to each other but not my sister and me. My sister and I were 3 and 4 when adopted and one of my brothers was adopted as a baby and the other was like 1 or something. Anyway, my brothers when we were younger would sexually molest us, and just weird shit. We told our Mom (didn’t tell our Dad because we figured our Mom would tell him but apparently she didn’t), and she never did anything about it so we just went through life like normal. Anyway, one of my brothers got really bad into drugs for a while, and he was always drunk and just steals all the freaking time! Stole from me when I was younger, stole from family, it really didn’t matter who you were 🤷‍♀️ for some reason, this is my Mom’s favorite child. All 3 of us have told her she favors him and enables him, but she just doesn’t see it and denies denies. Well, that brother and I lost connection years ago & for some reason my mom always wanted us to reconnect and I kept telling her I can’t. I have kids and a house and husband and I just don’t trust him and I can’t handle him when he’s drunk, angry or doped up & I don’t trust him around my kids. Well, my birthday was October 2nd and she asked my husband if my brother could come and my husband said not this time as this is my wife’s day and they don’t get along. My Mom got angry, flipped out on my husband and didn’t come to my birthday party and hung out with my brother on my day instead. Fine I’m a big kid and can handle it, she’s petty 🤷‍♀️ but my daughter’s 9th birthday party is this weekend and she loves her Mimi, but I haven’t talked to my Mom since October 2nd. My mom is never one to apologize and she holders grudges like no other. My question is, do I invite my Mom for my daughter or keep the negativity away?? I’m torn. But idk if she’d even show up...

I should mention my parents are not together anymore so it doesn’t make a difference if I invited my Dad but he never comes to anything anyway.