Long term relationships help

Looking for advice from people who have been in long term committed relationships. I’ve been with my husband 15 years and married 9. Lately I am just so angry with him. I have days where I don’t even like him and I actually even go as far as to think about what life would be like if we split up. I do love him. And I love the life we have together. And lately I feel like he is so checked out and I am carrying the weight of basically everything but his job. I’ve consistently asked 2 things of him.. 1. Non sexual physical contact 2. Communication regularly-over communicate. He does neither of these things. I ask all the time about his day, how he is, how he’s feeling etc. but he doesn’t ask in return. COVID has been horrible for all of us.. and I am resentful that he’s just checked out and let me handle everything. I just don’t even know what to do anymore. Today I’m so sick of him I just wish he would leave for the day and let me be with the kids myself. Ughhhhh. I don’t want this for my marriage.