Partner acting different since I’ve been pregnant

Hey mamas, I’m feeling a lil depressed and down. This is my first child, and this is his second baby. He told me he wanted another baby so bad etc and he’s so great with his daughter. Every since ive told him i was pregnant, it’s like he doesn’t put in the same effort he has before.

Everytime we have a argument, he says it’s better if we co-parent knowing that’s the last thing i want to do. HE SAYS IT EVERY SINGLE TIME WE ARGUE. It always makes me cry because i didn’t have my dad growing up and i thought i picked the perfect guy to have a family with.

What hurts the most is that when we’re not arguing, he’s so sweet, kind, and the most amazing man that I’ve ever been with. As soon as we disagree on something, all that changes. It hurt so bad. I told him i was stressing and because he’s going through issues with his first baby mama he told me “welcome to the club” as if his intentions are to make me hurt too.

I’ve talked to my mom and she said i should give him exactly what he’s asking for because this isn’t his first time suggesting it. I talked to his mom and she said i should just give him some space because he’s stressing and saying things he doesn’t mean. I’m just torn.

He was upset because his other baby mom didn’t meet him at the pick up spot to pick up his daughter and wanted to meet him at a different location, so i was like just go ahead and meet her because you have to work tomorrow, he really going to say it’s none of my business. I said I’m glad you think it’s none of my business. So next time he askes me to watch a 2 year old from 5pm to 4 in the morning while I’m pregnant, I’ll tell him that’s none of my business. I really feel as if he took his attitude out on me.

My solution is to ignore him for this time being, avoid calls, texts unless it’s about a doctors appointment and stop giving him so much access to me. My heart breaks a little more everytime i hear co-parent. I don’t understand why he would want to co-parent with his second child if he’s seeing how it’s affecting his first one and it’s crazy because he’s a AMAZING dad. I’m starting to think that he doesn’t want a partner, just the kids. Any advice? Anybody dealt with this? Anything helps.