Anything to be worried about?

My daughter has been showing some signs of ADHD/autism but it keeps getting brushed off by hv/GP she literally won't sleep she's so hyperactive if there's been a change in her routine she has such a melt down and its becoming such a battle I can't let other family members have her because it changes her routine and it takes her a week to get back into her routine every little thing that doesn't go wrong can result in a melt down going on for hours she hates certain food because of the texture of it and she's obsessed with stacking and lining things up and it has to be perfect otherwise she will cry but the worst one is being dirty she will scream like it's hurting her until she's clean again then it's like nothing ever happened and it's almost impossible to keep her dressed she hates clothes she hates shoes on I don't know what to do to help her when no one else is listening to me about my concerns

*picture of the little monster*