We live in a separate state from all our family and this is my first baby. How do I tell people (especially my in-laws) that I don't want everyone rushing to come visit us after the baby is born? I don't know how I am going to feel and I also want time with my baby to bond and learn to breastfeed before he is snatched away from me every 5 seconds to be held by everyone. Every time I get a text about them rushing to see the baby when he's here I don't know what to say. I don't want to sound rude but it annoys me too that they just assume that's okay without asking me what I want.