long story short .....

I love my mom, while growing up I was pretty close to her but I feel our relationship growing distant more and more as time passes. every time I call her she has to make me feel bad about something and omg its so draining I hate it.

the other day I called and told her I wouldn't be coming over for Thanksgiving and she lost it told me I was disowning my family and that I was keeping my kids away from her.

what really bothers me is she always guilt trips me about how she misses my kids and I or that she never gets to see my kids. but she puts zero effort Into seeing any of us. she never calls to talk to my kids never calls to see if she can come visit. but she real quick to guilt trip me about these things.

anyways if anyone has any advice im open to it thanks in advanced.

p.s I wrote another post in the anxiety and depression needing to vent about my mom if any one wants to hear the longer story