So I’m 20 and my boyfriend is 19 right now we’ve been dating for 4 years. I’ve always seen more appeal in having my children sooner rather than later my parents had me so late (30 and 34) and I want more time with my kids than that, I don’t want to wait too long and struggle to get pregnant, I want to be young still while they’re a teenager and be younger when they graduate too I don’t want to be 50 still raising kids. I’ve always wanted nothing more than to have children. A lot of my friends have been getting pregnant and they’re all 20 or 21. My friends did get pregnant by accident, but they’re happy about it now and I feel like it’s not that bad of a thing to happen so early. I have a job, a pretty good savings, and I’m in college and after I graduate from college (spring 2022) I want to go straight to work and have a baby the next year when my boyfriend graduates so I’ll be 23 and he’ll be 22. My boyfriend has a guaranteed job with his dad after college and he’ll be making a lot of money. My boyfriend also already has a lot of money. I told him we should have kids early and all the upsides of it but he doesn’t want kids at 22 which I understand but I think there’s so many benefits to having them younger and that he’d be happy once they actually got here. He wants to try for kids around 25-28 (his age) and he’s a year younger than me I’ll be a year older for all those ages and I don’t want to start that late. Do I keep trying to tell him the benefits of having children earlier? Or someone who had kids early tell me that a baby at 23 and 22 are a bad idea. 😩

(Also I think I have endometriosis because I have an endometrioma cyst on my ovary and I don’t want to start trying late because I’m scared I won’t get pregnant or it’ll take so long that I’m in my 30s by the time I have my first kid so I want to at least try as soon as possible)

Thank you all for your advice☺️, I probably should enjoy my 20s while I can I guess part of it was that I felt like I was behind since so many of my friends are pregnant even though they’re young I just felt like j was missing out on something like enjoying the benefits of being a young parent like them. I’ll try to compromise with my boyfriend somewhere in the middle like 24-26 for him the age gap just makes it kinda hard