I have diagnosed depression and anxiety and my family have long suspected me of having borderline personality disorder too. I match seven of the main nine BPD symptoms.

I have I guess a habit whereby if people are trying to talk about stuff I don't want to engage in, I just ignore what they're saying and change the topic.

I don't talk about myself often, but don't expect people not to talk about themselves because of it. I just feel a line needs to be drawn somewhere or the room needs to be read a little.

For example, a friend of mine who knows we've been TTC for a few years now is a few months pregnant. Unplanned, unexpected (apparently, I mean they were having unprotected sex according to her) but they're happy and excited about it. But the thing is she keeps complaining to me about her pregnancy and how hot she is and how her December plans are ruined now, and how they need to buy this and all her doctors appointments (she doesn't live a healthy lifestyle so is high risk), etc. I'll listen to her for a little bit, offer a supportive word her and there then change the subject.

Another example is I needed to speak to my coworker about something but she said she was hungry, so I told her to go eat and we'll talk later. She says she doesn't know what she wants to eat, I ignored because I'm actually quite busy today and don't have chitchat time. Then she says she's not in the mood to make food. Like you're a 33 year old woman, either buy something or make something.

A third example is I went for lunch with some people the other day and the one girl just spent 10 minutes going off about herself and how high maintenance she is, and how before she got married she was juggling several men in her church without them knowing so her husband better not drop the ball because he knows she will find someone else super quick, etc. After the 10 minutes I just had to change the conversation, I didn't even encourage it.

I can give you plenty of other examples, but do you think that just makes me rude or is it part of a bigger problem?