Okay so just a few days ago our daughter was in the Er and then got admitted to the hospital she was sick enough to require oxygen I.V. and all the monitors. She is still sick as am i and so is our son and up until yesterday so was my husband. I was not planning on doing anything for Thanksgiving at all because lets face it who wants to cook while sick and take care of kids that are sick as well. Well day before yesterday my husband had his mom bring a Turkey to the house and he said are you ready to cook Thanksgiving dinner like ummm what. I told him my feelings that why did you not clear it with me first beforehand and let me know you wanted Thanksgiving so o can prepare i was in tears and panicking. I was upset because he does this all the time i have never cooked a Thanksgiving by myself ever we always went to his family's home but because of covid we cant. So mentally i was not prepared and when i say mentally i get bad anxiety and need a few days to prepare my brian my mind and to hype myself up or i crash panic and shut down. He knows this but no he throws me into this without talking planning or discussing it with me first. But he planned it with his mom who is not even here but at her moms house. He tells me its a joke and with an attitude dont worry you wont have to cook i'll do it myself. I told him i will still do it i just wish he would have spoken to me first and not his mom. He said no i will do it myself i dont NEED your help. btw they do this alot they plan things behind my back and throw me into the fire blind and just expect me to swim and go for it. That throws me into a massive panic and stresses me out to the point i get light headed. Today he is cooking the food and anytime he has a question he calls his mom and wont let me help. He is currently on video chat with his whole family so now they all know that the women is not cooking but the man is btw they are mexican so those who know its like some sort of issues that men dont cook clean or raise kids. So now im going to be worried on Christmas that they will hate me. He just wanted to spend another day like he does ever day gaming all day and do nothing like always. Im so upset that he acts like a child. All he has to do is tell me things and discuss things with me and i come around to ideas but no he likes throwing me to the wolves and make me panic.