What to do

What's a good way to.... Kind of... Make my husband obsessed with me again?? We both aren't mushy people he treats me like one of his bros, but acknowledges and fondles me more and talks to me less. It's probably unhealthy but this is a reoccurring thing in our marriage.. I feel like he's bored or doesn't care for me as much or whatever and I look for ways to add a little spark to our relationship again. Out of our whole 5 yr relationship we have had one talk (pretty recently) about how we need to work together and communicate. Unfortunately he's the type of guy that goes to his parents (mainly his dad) for advice on everything and his dad literally says every female is insane and dramatic and you have to walk on eggshells just to be somewhat happy. I told him that's not true obviously. The other day he actually yelled at me and said every issue in our relationship is bc of me not him.. I am the only one who tries and asks how to make him happy, he never asks me. Idk what to do. He's in general a nice guy I just feel like if something doesn't change soon then we'll end up having to separate.. or worse.