I just ruined a surprise ðŸ˜
I called my grandmother to chat this morning. She said "So I hear your sister is going to pick up your puppy today?" (She had gone on a trip but I had no idea that's why she was going) I said "Um I wasn't aware I was getting a puppy." Immediately my grandmother realized she might have just ruined a surprise. I said "I'm kinda glad I heard this bit of information. I would want to know if I was getting a dog." Here's the deal. I am not an animal person. Not a dog person. I have a 3 year old and a 20 month old. They keep me freaking busy as it is. My daughter just went through a health crisis and I feel like I am still healing from the stress of that. I had Covid in June and have not had a sense of taste and smell since then. So when this dog poops and pees all over the house or smells like wet dog, I won't know. I can barely keep up with my two children's messes. Never mind an animal. I struggle to get my children bathed often, never mind a dog. My children wake me up all night long, I don't need something else whining at night, needing to be taken out. So I called up my husband, and I told him what my grandmother said. And he was quiet for a second, and said "You are getting a puppy as a surprise." I don't know how to feel right now! I am ticked that as much stress as I've been under lately and I am getting another responsibility! And I had no say in the decision. No say in what is coming into our house? I don't even know if it's the kind I'll want, or if it will like our children. I don't have anything for a dog. I don't even have a spot to put it. My husband said that he would take it to work with him. He drives for a living. I can guarantee that's not going to work out. And I am not an idiot. I won't put a puppy out into the barn in the cold. I am a mother after all. Now I've totally messed everything up. I ruined the surprise with my husband and my sister. I don't know how to act when they present me with a puppy, when I already know. And she travelled 9 hrs each way to go get it. I'm kinda mad at my husband because he didn't talk to me first. But I feel terrible that he is trying to be sweet by surprising me. What would you do??
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