I have been reading through posts on here hoping I wasn’t the only one feeling like this.

Married my husband last September and have been together for 8 years next month.

We have been through the ringer, even spent a year apart due to the military.

Here I am, a year later and I don’t know what to do. I love him to pieces but we have no plans. When I talk about goals and plans for the future is quiet or passive.

He has changed his career 3 times and always resorts back to manual labor. He is up at 5am and works outside all day, he comes home tired and hungry. Asleep by 8pm.

No money saved, no plans for trips. He talks about having kids all the time but no sex. We have had sex less than 10 times in the last two years. I have tried it all, lingerie, toys, games- nothing.

Everyone around me is buying homes, getting pregnant, traveling (precovid), I don’t want to compare myself to others but since we got married last year everyone is always asking when we are planning on kids- it’s a bummer when I think- he doesn’t even make love to me.

We have done therapy and it works but then a week later we are back to the same.

I am bored, horny and lonely. I love him but I don’t feel like I have a partner. What can I do?!