How to not rely on reading something (erotica) to orgasm

So I’m 22 years old and a virgin and started masturbating in high school. Like I remember reading sexy, dirty fan fiction sophomore or freshman year and having an orgasm for the first time. I had no problem getting it done in the shower by just imagining in my head. Now, I don’t know when it’s happened exactly but I try not to rely on something to get me there and I just can’t. August of 2019 I briefly dated someone and one night we were making out and touching each other. We didn’t have sex because I wasn’t ready but we did other stuff. We did that for like two nights and not once could I get there. He really tried but he just kept rubbing directly on my clit and I’m too sensitive there. I prefer the clitoral hood you know? Tried to show him but he wouldn’t get the hint. Glad I didn’t lose to him though lol And the first night it briefly crosses my mind, “oh no, I don’t think I can orgasm just like this. This feels good but I can’t” I got worried afterwards like what if I need to read stuff to help get me there. It’s been a concern for me ever since. I’m not quite sure what to do to like rewire my brain somehow. I’m in a relationship now (long distance) and we haven’t done anything yet and I’m worried that something may be wrong with me and I just won’t be able to orgasm. I mean that’s not the most important thing to me. Being intimate with my partner and just being in the moment is what matters but still you know?