Anyone else?

So my daughter has always had a really hard time sleeping. I mean like really hard..... Took me tell she was 11 months to FINALLY get her to sleep without rocking or holding her. Everything was amazing tell tonight. She was going down in her own crib at 7pm every night no issues. Then......... She figured out how to get out!!!!! Took me and hubs 3hrs to get her to sleep. We rocked her, gave her a bottle, sang, tried her rocking chair, tried everything..... We had to legit pretend to sleep and have her in her crib and keep laying her down every time she got up. She WONT and never has fallen asleep with us, she is super emotional and sassy as can be and likes her own space. But lately she is ALWAYS crying!!!!! Like all day over everything. Idk wtf to do anymore. I'm going insane. I can't go anywhere or do anything. We haven't had even 5mins alone (date) or anything since before our son (2014) so now the only little time i had naps and a set bedtime i no longer have.. Help me. What do i do now??? My son was bfing at this age and easily fell asleep with us but she NEVER took to breastfeeding so it's a whole new struggle..