I wrote a post a while ago about our situation. My MIL separated from her husband and moved us across country to help her. We moved in November of last year (2019). Since we’ve been here, it’s been nothing but hell. We’ve done all of the work around the house, and have been responsible for everything short of wiping her ass. We’ve told her from like March to September that I needed a job and could not watch my SIL during the day if we were going to help with bills. She said it was fine, she just wanted help with my SIL. Then, she put my son in school $1000/mo and paid for it so I could have my full attention on my SIL. Every time we tried to branch off and start a life here, she would have a break down. She would say that she paid to move us here to help her and she doesn’t want us to leave, she wants us to all buy one big property and stay together, etc. It was a nightmare and all we wanted was to move out. She also simultaneously continued bitching about us not helping with bills. Our hands were tied. She was also super demeaning to us the entire time. For example, I expressed feelings about how no one else has done the dishes in 8 months and how I’m doing them 3 times a day and I need them to pick up after themselves. Her response was, “I supply the stuff for you to do the dishes! So what a slap in the face!” Or if I said people aren’t picking up after themselves, she would say, “You’re home all day so what’s the issue? You have nothing better to do. See I’m just a domestic goddess so stuff like that never bothered me. Etc.” We literally turned into slaves. Then, her abusive ex husband (who abused the girls that live here) decided he wanted back with her. What did she do? Gave us 90 days to move out. Many of y’all said we put ourselves in this position, it’s her house and we are lucky she gave us 90 days, we need to grow up, etc. but again...WE TRIED and we were met with cry fests. We were met with the stress of trying to pay childcare costs even though SHE signed him up for it and wouldn’t let me take him out (it was healthier for him to stay in, to be fair because my SIL is special needs and can be aggressive), finding a place, finding a job (me, not my husband. He has a great one), and saving up for deposit and first months rent.

Here goes the update: I found TWO jobs both in my degree field! I actually cancelled one interview to take another 4 day a week job and I was blessed with a phenomenal response from the clinical supervisor and she wanted me to be an on-call therapist for the one day I’m off. I’ll work 5 days a week, 8-4 which is perfect. My husband and I combined will make over $100,000/yr now. We found tons of great housing options. We also got to purchase ALL new furniture for all of the rooms in our new house. We are putting it all in storage so we don’t hear my MIL’s mouth. Our first night in our new place (3/1) will be like Christmas! ALL NEW STUFF down to the spoons! Thank you for all of your prayers!