Celiacs disease and Drama it Brings

Hello everyone!!!

So I have celiacs disease, been diagnosed for almost 8 years now, I don’t have much issue with with following the diet. I am not sick all the time and legit feel a million times better than I used to but I have a slight issue that I wonder if anyone else who has food issues (allergy, sensitivity etc) has run into this.

To make a long story short both my husbands parents have passed away, his mother used to make sure I could eat things and was always considerate so was his father. He has 2 younger brothers, one who lives out of state and the other who lives here. I have always had a good relationship with them (I think) but every time we get together to either order out or go out to eat they always insist on going to/ordering places that I can’t eat anything from.

I can’t eat salads bc raw vegetables(especially lettuce or spinach) hurt my stomach. I had a lot of damage from the years of eating what I shouldn’t have been (obviously since I did not know it was the wheat hurting me) so that leaves my choices at a lot of places to nothing.

I feel really hurt by this because they are fully aware of my issue, they have fiends who have the same thing as me and I have been with my husband for almost 13 years, they were around when I got really sick and had the testing done. Ones fiancé is a nurse and her best friend has the same thing so it’s not like they don’t understand this.

Since their parents have passed I do go out of my way to make elaborate holiday meals, done what their mom used to do but the past year has been rough. I had lost my job in the summer and it’s taken me a while to find something that works (thankfully I found an amazing place) but I am adjusting to a new work schedule and my husband and I both are recovering (about 2 weeks out) from covid. We decided that we were not going to do anything major but do a small get together and order out. Well the one is coming from out of state so he always gets to pick where we eat and it’s seems like the nights he’s with us it’s always one of the few places locally that either doesn’t have a gluten free menu or I don’t trust bc I have gotten sick from them.

How can I bring this up without sounding like a brat? So I just suck it up and go back to cooking these meals so at least I know I am safe? Does anyone else deal with this?