2 1/2 and absolutely awful

I swear to you I am losing my mind. Daughter is 2 1/2 I also have a just turned 1 year old so life is busy. she is nutzo! Everything setting her off, screams, kicks, refuses bed time, a little Tasmania I swear! It’s embarrassing.... to the point that I don’t want to take her anywhere ( not that we really do because of covid ) but even seeing family I dread. I feel like she is controlling my life ! My poor baby is so calm and chill and this one is literally sucking it out of me. I’m pretty strict when it comes to discipline. I’ve tried many things. I don’t want any judgement just want to know this is normal right for this age ? Or is there some tips and tricks I can try ? Someone seasoned give me your wisdom. She just screamed all the way home from Christmas dinner ( 30 min ) and I seriously feel like the day is just ruined. The mom guilt is literally so real!!!